Turn down the external noise of the outside world so you can listen to your inner voice about what you want and need at the moment.<\/em><\/li>

Take action to control your life and make conscious decisions to get out of it what you want and need.<\/em><\/li>

Be kind to yourself and accept less than 100% success.<\/em><\/li>

Be patient with yourself and take the long view of success in dealing with problems.<\/em><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
It claims that Americans regularly hire \u201clife coaches\u201d to remind them of these tips for getting ahead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Really?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The article makes the following claim:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cResearch in a concept that psychologists call self-determination shows that having the ability to draw on internal resources, such self-regulation or self-compassion, during tough times is essential to our well-being and performance. We\u2019re strongest and most stable when we\u2019re motivated from within, have control over our decision-making and time, and feel a sense of purpose.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
The majority of the posts on my blog<\/a> are little else but this. This is especially true during the pandemic, but it applies to postings going back years and years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Americans today have to be reminded that self-reflection and taking control of one\u2019s life are important? It has to be spelled out for them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Really?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Where have all the grown-ups gone?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Schools Are Closing Classrooms on Fridays. Parents Are Furious.<\/strong><\/a>
Desperate to keep teachers, some districts have turned to remote teaching for one day a week \u2014 and sometimes more. Families have been left to find child care.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have heard it again and again: teachers are burned out. They aren\u2019t paid enough for what they deal with. Working conditions are horrid. They are getting out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Wah, wah, wah, wah!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What a bunch of whiny bitches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I say this as a public school teacher myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Are teachers and students exhausted by this point of the school year? Well, yes. Winter vacation starts in one week, and students and teachers are counting down the days and stumbling across the finish line. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But that is the way it has always been. This is my 28th time running this rat race of the academic school year. What is different this year? It has always exhausted me to the point where I am just hanging on. I have gotten used to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Maybe my choice in high school sports helped me in my professional life. Almost two years before the pandemic, I wrote a blog posting about how I had been well served by running cross country in high school \u2013 \u201cCross Country, the Teacher: Pain Tolerance as a Valuable Life Skill.\u201d<\/a> <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Perhaps I have acquired a high tolerance for pain and discomfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It could be that is important in being a teacher.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I surely wanted to quit too when I was a beginning teacher in a horrible school district<\/a>. But I didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I hung in there; I figured it out. I switched to work in better<\/a> schools<\/a>; I made it work. I showed up and put in the work year after year.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But I look a little deeper into these teachers quitting and I wonder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Are many of these teachers \u2013 and the students, too \u2013 in a bad mental health place in general, and so are less able to undergo the normal stresses of the school year. After almost two years of mostly distance learning, are they just out of practice? Do they have less resilience? Are they hanging on by their fingertips? Is there something different in the air?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have read the reports. Kids are supposedly feral in misbehavior and behind in academics. Some schools seem to be out of control. The pay is low and the stress is high. So teachers are giving up and quitting? Resigning in the tens of thousands? Pulling the ripcord and parachuting out? Letting out a huge sigh of relief in the process?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It would appear so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And if teachers are giving up and quitting, I wonder if a lot of students are doing the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I drive by the local community college and wonder if larger numbers of borderline students are not even attempting college anymore. A quick Google search tells me college enrollment is down 6.5% overall, and I\u2019ll bet it is down even more at two-year community colleges. Community college was a dicey-enough proposition before COVID, and the dropout rates were already sky high. Very average \u201cC\u201d students? First in the family to attend college-types? The typical community college student is not necessarily that into academics during the best of times. Are they even in school now? I have heard rumors that the enrollment there is way down. Will we have many fewer college graduates than in the past?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have heard some describe all these Americans quitting their jobs collectively as the \u201cGreat Resignation.\u201d Workers quitting their jobs in record numbers. Students similarly withdrawing from school and education. Or not even starting it in earnest? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
What are they doing instead?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Where do we go from here?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What will these teachers who are resigning in large numbers do? All the other workers quitting their jobs? What about all the students who aren\u2019t in school?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Will they stay at home dumb and happy with their government stimulus checks?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sitting in their apartments with Netflix and weed? TikTok and Grand Theft Auto? Texting and Instagram? Lots of Americans staring at screens home alone on the couch \u2013 our seeming national pastime? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Will this bring lasting happiness? A sense of purpose? A measure of prosperity? A sustainable lifestyle?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Or will they languish and struggle to find their place in the world? Will more Americans lead \u201clives of quiet desperation\u201d? Diseases of despair? A struggle to pay the rent and utilities? Pandemic isolation? Massive numbers of drug overdoses? The same old, same old?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I wonder if we are suffering in the United States from a generalized failure to engage the wider world of school and work, and that COVID-19 has just made it worse by accelerating earlier trends in society.<\/strong> It seems we have less friendship, less dating, less family, less community, less money? At the same time, we have a profitable and advanced video game ecosystem, terabytes of free Internet pornography, and online dating as the norm for singles. Is our society typified by too many swarms of digital pixels in front of our eyes, and too few successful real life interactions with real people? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Is this description too much? Is it not this bad?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I will hope so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It must be that this unhappy time in America has success stories?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I am sure there are many who are making the most out of the available opportunities. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Teachers and students who are putting forth a strong effort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Are there Americans today who show resilience and grit and are actually doing well?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I hope so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But it is worrisome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Finally, yesterday I read this article in the New York Times<\/em> about rave-style music clubs with a \u201csacred\u201d patina designed to combat pandemic loneliness and isolation \u2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Can Parties Help Us Heal?<\/strong>
<\/strong><\/a>\u201cNocturnal Medicine held a therapy rave at a Queens nightclub to help people transition into winter.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
You might find such a scene in the Venice area of Los Angeles, or somewhere in San Francisco or Berkeley, up in the Bay Area \u2013 or in Austin, Texas, or in Portland, Oregon \u2013 or in Queens, New York where the article takes place. Progressives. Urban. Coastal. Persons in their 20s and 30s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I will give these people points for at least trying to combat the pervasive anxiety and depression in a Millennial generation which so often has less marriage or family \u2013 spouses and children \u2013 or sense of community and belonging going for it. They are trying to plug a hole, fulfill a need. Good for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But maybe actually try joining a faith community in a real church or synagogue rather than half-assing it? Get a real family, instead of some ersatz one at a weekend rave or music festival? Develop a real community of friends, rather than an online circle of social media contacts?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The changing modes of contemporary social organization in this country do not seem sufficient to the age-old needs of human connection and happiness.<\/strong> To be strong in one\u2019s body and beliefs, to have good friends with shared interests, to make enough money to get by, and to belong to a family and community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Is it really so hard?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Where have all the grown-ups gone?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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ALEXANDRIA OCASIO-CORTEZ AND DONALD TRUMP: DIVISON AND DEMAGOGUERY; AMERICAN POLITICS TODAY<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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THE AMERICAN “US” VERSUS “THEM” \u2013 DIVISIVE POLITICAL PARTISANSHIP; A COLD CIVIL WAR<\/h2>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
This week I read four articles which seem to sum up the zeitgeist at the moment. Walk with me through them and let\u2019s see what we can see. \u201cWhere Have All the Grown-ups Gone?\u201dby Paul Krugman I normally never read anything by columnist Paul Krugman: he is generally a one-dimensional thinker, and you know what his predictable columns will say by just reading the headline. After reading the title, why read the whole article? You know what it is going to say. Krugman\u2019s latest column talks about how Bob Dole was an old-school conservative, and now the last 20 years of conservativism is a history of serious moral decline from that \u2013 standard lefty boilerplate one would expect from Paul Krugman, a lefty political pundit. But it rings true how Bob Dole did stand for an American ideal which few, on either side of the political aisle, can claim nowadays, in my opinion. Dole was a war hero from Kansas, a disabled combat veteran, a pragmatic lawmaker, and a failed presidential candidate. He was a legislator predisposed to get the often boring work of government done through negotiated compromise in accepting half-measures. He was not a loudmouth blowhard or a grandstanding prima donna; he believed in quiet hard work and the art of the possible in legislating. Bob Dole\u2019s death last week at 98-years of age was a reminder of an America which seemed to work better \u2013 when politicians used to get the business of America done without turning every issue into a raging dumpster fire. After losing the 1996 presidential election Bob Dole was actually friendly towards the winner Bill Clinton. Can you imagine that nowadays? Or when John McCain refused to demonize Barack Obama during a political rally? Can you see someone doing this now? In a posting two weeks ago, I was decrying the usual social media prancing by the usual suspects in our polarized, poisonous political world: Donald Trump, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Marjorie Taylor Greene, and Cori Bush. What happens when you compare them to Bob Dole? It puts into stark relief how much our political life has declined \u2013 both Democratic and Republicans the same, it seems to me. But maybe the problem is not in the leaders but with the American people. As they say, in a democracy the people get the leaders they deserve. Maybe we deserve them. Stressed? Worn Down? It\u2019s Time to Be Your Own Life Coach\u201cYou can\u2019t always count on friends or family members for support. During tough times, you can learn to coach yourself.\u201d Jeez. You would think a fully grown adult would hardly need to be told these things. That they would have the tools and skills to attend competently to the self. I suspect I was wrong. But I guess there is a need for an article like this to spell out specific \u201cadulting\u201d tips: Turn down the external noise of the outside world so you can listen to your inner voice about what you want and need at the moment. Take action to control your life and make conscious decisions to get out of it what you want and need. Be kind to yourself and accept less than 100% success. Be patient with yourself and take the long view of success in dealing with problems. It claims that Americans regularly hire \u201clife coaches\u201d to remind them of these tips for getting ahead. Really? The article makes the following claim: \u201cResearch in a concept that psychologists call self-determination shows that having the ability to draw on internal resources, such self-regulation or self-compassion, during tough times is essential to our well-being and performance. We\u2019re strongest and most stable when we\u2019re motivated from within, have control over our decision-making and time, and feel a sense of purpose.\u201d The majority of the posts on my blog are little else but this. This is especially true during the pandemic, but it applies to postings going back years and years. Americans today have to be reminded that self-reflection and taking control of one\u2019s life are important? It has to be spelled out for them? Really? Where have all the grown-ups gone? Schools Are Closing Classrooms on Fridays. Parents Are Furious.Desperate to keep teachers, some districts have turned to remote teaching for one day a week \u2014 and sometimes more. Families have been left to find child care.\u201d I have heard it again and again: teachers are burned out. They aren\u2019t paid enough for what they deal with. Working conditions are horrid. They are getting out. Wah, wah, wah, wah! What a bunch of whiny bitches. I say this as a public school teacher myself. Are teachers and students exhausted by this point of the school year? Well, yes. Winter vacation starts in one week, and students and teachers are counting down the days and stumbling across the finish line. But that is the way it has always been. This is my 28th time running this rat race of the academic school year. What is different this year? It has always exhausted me to the point where I am just hanging on. I have gotten used to it. Maybe my choice in high school sports helped me in my professional life. Almost two years before the pandemic, I wrote a blog posting about how I had been well served by running cross country in high school \u2013 \u201cCross Country, the Teacher: Pain Tolerance as a Valuable Life Skill.\u201d Perhaps I have acquired a high tolerance for pain and discomfort. It could be that is important in being a teacher. I surely wanted to quit too when I was a beginning teacher in a horrible school district. But I didn\u2019t. I hung in there; I figured it out. I switched to work in better schools; I made it work. I showed up and put in the work year after year. But I look a little deeper into these teachers quitting and I wonder. Are many of these teachers \u2013 and the students, too \u2013 in a bad mental health place in general, and so are less able to undergo the normal stresses of the school year. After almost two years of mostly distance learning, are they just out of practice? Do they have less resilience? Are they hanging on by their fingertips? Is there something different in the air? I have read the reports. Kids are supposedly feral in misbehavior and behind in academics. Some schools seem to be out of control. The pay is low and the stress is high. So teachers are giving up and quitting? Resigning in the tens of thousands? Pulling the ripcord and parachuting out? Letting out a huge sigh of relief in the process? It would appear so. And if teachers are giving up and quitting, I wonder if a lot of students are doing the same. I drive by the local community college and wonder if larger numbers of borderline students are not even attempting college anymore. A quick Google search tells me college enrollment is down 6.5% overall, and I\u2019ll bet it is down even more at two-year community colleges. Community college was a dicey-enough proposition before COVID, and the dropout rates were already sky high. Very average \u201cC\u201d students? First in the family to attend college-types? The typical community college student is not necessarily that into academics during the best of times. Are they even in school now? I have heard rumors that the enrollment there is way down. Will we have many fewer college graduates than in the past? I have heard some describe all these Americans quitting their jobs collectively as the \u201cGreat Resignation.\u201d Workers quitting their jobs in record numbers. Students similarly withdrawing from school and education. Or not even starting it in earnest? What are they doing instead? Where do we go from here? What will these teachers who are resigning in large numbers do? All the other workers quitting their jobs? What about all the students who aren\u2019t in school? Will they stay at home dumb and happy with their government stimulus checks? Sitting in their apartments with Netflix and weed? TikTok and Grand Theft Auto? Texting and Instagram? Lots of Americans staring at screens home alone on the couch \u2013 our seeming national pastime? Will this bring lasting happiness? A sense of purpose? A measure of prosperity? A sustainable lifestyle? Or will they languish and struggle to find their place in the world? Will more Americans lead \u201clives of quiet desperation\u201d? Diseases of despair? A struggle to pay the rent and utilities? Pandemic isolation? Massive numbers of drug overdoses? The same old, same old? I wonder if we are suffering in the United States from a generalized failure to engage the wider world of school and work, and that COVID-19 has just made it worse by accelerating earlier trends in society. It seems we have less friendship, less dating, less family, less community, less money? At the same time, we have a profitable and advanced video game ecosystem, terabytes of free Internet pornography, and online dating as the norm for singles. Is our society typified by too many swarms of digital pixels in front of our eyes, and too few successful real life interactions with real people? Is this description too much? Is it not this bad? I will hope so. It must be that this unhappy time in America has success stories? I am sure there are many who are making the most out of the available opportunities. Teachers and students who are putting forth a strong effort. Are there Americans today who show resilience and grit and are actually doing well? I hope so. But it is worrisome. Finally, yesterday I read this article in the New York Times about rave-style music clubs with a \u201csacred\u201d patina designed to combat pandemic loneliness and isolation \u2014 Can Parties Help Us Heal?\u201cNocturnal Medicine held a therapy rave at a Queens nightclub to help people transition into winter.\u201d You might find such a scene in the Venice area of Los Angeles, or somewhere in San Francisco or Berkeley, up in the Bay Area \u2013 or in Austin, Texas, or in Portland, Oregon \u2013 or in Queens, New York where the article takes place. Progressives. Urban. Coastal. Persons in their 20s and 30s. I will give these people points for at least trying to combat the pervasive anxiety and depression in a Millennial generation which so often has less marriage or family \u2013 spouses and children \u2013 or sense of community and belonging going for it. They are trying to plug a hole, fulfill a need. Good for them. But maybe actually try joining a faith community in a real church or synagogue rather than half-assing it? Get a real family, instead of some ersatz one at a weekend rave or music festival? Develop a real community of friends, rather than an online circle of social media contacts? The changing modes of contemporary social organization in this country do not seem sufficient to the age-old needs of human connection and happiness. To be strong in one\u2019s body and beliefs, to have good friends with shared interests, to make enough money to get by, and to belong to a family and community. Is it really so hard? Where have all the grown-ups gone? 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