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Twenty One Years and Counting

Twenty One Years and Counting

"Let no one weep for me, or celebrate my funeral with mourning; for I still live, as I pass to and fro through the mouths of men." Quintus Ennius 21 years, mom. 21 years ago you died. At first, of course, it hurt worse since the wound was fresh. But…
Sex and Power and Coupling: Then and Now in America

Sex and Power and Coupling: Then and Now in America

"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power." Abraham Lincoln It is said that “rich and powerful men are a powerful aphrodisiac for women” – I remember hearing this line during the late 1990s with the Bill Clinton “bimbo eruptions”…
My Nightmare: Indecision and Incertitude

My Nightmare: Indecision and Incertitude

“The dream of reason produces monsters” Francisco Goya I have always resisted interpreting my dreams, or seeking to tie large meanings to one’s life from the subterranean miasma from which dreams arise, half remembered  upon waking. I know Jungians and the like place huge importance on dreams, and in endlessly…
To Keep One’s Sanity in the Age of Trump

To Keep One’s Sanity in the Age of Trump

President Donald Trump, Enfant Terrible February 23, 2017 Donald Trump has been president for a handful of weeks, and it has already been frustrating, excruciating, exhausting, and enraging. The purpose of this essay is to examine why I am so angry, how I can control that anger so it does…
Hello, 2017

Hello, 2017

As is the tradition, I post my New Year's Resolutions for this coming year, 2017. But unlike in past years, I find I don't have much to say. Am I in a "dry period" with regards to personal growth? Or are things going well and I don't feel the need to…
Exhausted Parents and the “Hard Yards”

Exhausted Parents and the “Hard Yards”

Cross country on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday mornings at 7:00 a.m. on campus before school. Swim team practice on Tuesdays and Thursdays after school from 3:30 to 4:30 pm, followed by soccer practice from 5:30 to 6:30 on those days. Then there is tennis team practice on Fridays at 4:00…
My “Guardian Angels”

My “Guardian Angels”

I recently finished Gerald Marzorati’s new book, “Late to the Ball: Age. Learn. Fight. Love. Play Tennis. Win.” I enjoyed the tennis references, of course, but what I most enjoyed were the meditations about retirement and aging, friendship and connection -- and on learning to do anything new and grow in…
REVENGE OF THE POLITICAL CENTER

REVENGE OF THE POLITICAL CENTER

Today my state, California, votes in the 2016 presidential primary. By the end of the day, it should be the end of the Bernie Sanders presidential campaign. And I will be happy almost never to hear his name again. What a primary season it has been! Donald Trump and Bernie…
To Be A Young Adult and To Be a Bit Lost

To Be A Young Adult and To Be a Bit Lost

"To find oneself more than a bit lost -- while disorienting and even frightening -- is far from irremediable." It was sometime in early 1997 as I walking westbound on Superior Avenue in Newport Beach, California. My sister and her then fiancé happened to be driving by, saw me, pulled…
Julia’s and Elizabeth’s First Movie

Julia’s and Elizabeth’s First Movie

It has been too long since I last posted, I know. Especially after having promised to work more on my personal website. Sigh. But, in my defense, this "Farch" (February and March of school year; the hardest time of academic calendar) has been an arduous one. There were more health…
To Be One Way in Public, Another At Home

To Be One Way in Public, Another At Home

The main reason I enjoy Facebook, despite all the petty posts and sophomoric banter, is that I can keep tabs on my former students, to some degree. Christian P.? What college is he attending again? Megan L.? Is she still with the Italian boyfriend and working for the Red Cross…
Kill Your TV, Twenty Years Later

Kill Your TV, Twenty Years Later

Today I read yet another article about cord cutting, and how the business model for cable TV in the United States is changing. The idea that one must pay for many channels in which one has no interest in order to get the few one does. The cable companies are, they…